You have your heart focused on one thing. You have your entire future planned out step-by-step. You have worked hard your entire life. But to follow your planned future you have to get into that one college of your dreams. You have been preparing all your life for this one day: to get that acceptance letter to the college of your dreams and go about to pursue your future. But it doesn’t happen.
This was the fate of a very close friend of mine, who is now a senior in high school. Her SAT score was way above average, her grades were beyond stellar, and she was one of the most well-rounded students you could ever encounter. She knew it, I knew it, her family knew it, her teachers knew it, but the college of her dreams didn’t. This past spring, she took that painfully long and nerve-wracking walk across her driveway towards her mailbox knowing her future laid in one of the envelopes she was going to fetch. As she opened the mailbox and flipped after each envelope she found a small regular-sized envelope with her name printed on it and the logo of her dream college on the upper left-hand corner. Just by the size of the envelope, she knew rejection awaited, which it unfortunately did.
She immediately entered a stage of denial and depression. She had obviously applied to other colleges, but she did not and could not see herself going to any college except the one which rejected her. I tried explaining to her that the world does not stop for rejection. She can and will still have a bright future ahead of her and that her life would move on. She just didn’t seem to understand.
I understood the difficult position she was placed in and I must admit, I would never want to be in her shoes after all her hard-work. However, although my friend still hasn’t moved on from this heart-breaking rejection, I was able to learn from her that rejection or acceptance, I am ME and I will always be ME. No college can ever change my aspirations or desires. Everything happens for a reason, you just have to learn to look deeper and be content with yourself.